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INTELLIGENCE OF THE YOUNG WIFE.

Out of girlhood into wifehood.--The setting up of a new home.--Woman's exalted place.--Earlier influences.--Importance of intelligence.--Woman fitted by creator for wifehood and motherhood.--The position of reproductive organs in the body.--Dangers of crowding contents of abdomen.--What all young wives need to know.--Premium previously set upon ignorance.--Heredity.--Failures and successes of our ancestors.--Faults and virtues transmitted through heredity, 21-35

HOME AND DRESS.

Preparations for successful home-makers.--The importance of sensible dress.--An opportunity for reform.--The conditions of attractive dress.--A question of healthfulness.--What wives need to know concerning dress.--The kind to be avoided.--Injurious dress destroying the race.--The ailments caused by wrong dressing.--The corset curse.--A summary of the evils of dress, 37-46

HEALTH OF THE YOUNG WIFE.

Health insures happiness.--Be ambitious for health.--The scarcity of perfectly healthy women.--Fashion to the Rescue.--The boon of health.--Necessity of ventilation and fresh air.--Duties to the home.--The greatness of woman's sphere.--In the society drift.--The extreme of wholly avoiding society.--Keeping in the middle of the road.--Pleasures and recreations taken together.--Taking time to keep young.--Mistakes which some husbands make.--Wrecks at the beginning of married life, 47-55

THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND.

Higher standards are being set up in the choice of a husband.--Should be worthy of both love and respect.--Love likely to idealize the man.--The real characteristics necessary.--Deficiencies in character not to be supplied after marriage.--The right to demand purity.--Young men who "sow wild oats."--Importance of good health.--Weaknesses and diseases which descend from parents to children.--The parents' part in aiding to a wise choice.--The value of the physician's counsel.--One capable of supporting wife and children.--A dutiful son makes a good husband.--Essential requisites enumerated.--The father reproduced in his children.--The equivalents which the wife should bring to her husband, 57-64

WHAT SHALL A YOUNG WIFE EXPECT TO BE TO HER HUSBAND?

The young wife should seek to be her husband's equal, but not his counterpart.--The recognized centre of the home.--Woman's true greatness.--Man's helpmeet.--Mrs. Gladstone's part in her husband's greatness.--Should attract her husband from the club to the home.--Continuing to be attractive in dress and manners.--Should accept both wifehood and motherhood.--Should keep pace with his mental growth.--Guarding against improper use of literary clubs, reading circles, etc.--Solomon's picture of the model young wife.--A converted heathen's estimate of his Christian wife, 65-72

TROUSSEAU AND WEDDING PRESENTS.

Husband and wife ruined before their "crane is hung."--The foolish and ruinous display at weddings.--An illustration given.--How wedding presents lead to debt and unhappiness.--Living does not need much machinery.--Mistake of copying after people of large wealth.--Wise choice of furniture.--The best adornments for the home.--The trousseaux of our foremothers.--The need of simplicity.--Artificialities that make a veil between our souls and God, 73-78

THE MARITAL RELATIONS.

The subject approached with reluctance.--The marital state should be the most sacred of sanctuaries.--Wrongly interpreted it is the abode of darkness and sin.--Its influence for good or evil upon character.--Responsibility of mothers for the unhappy lives of their daughters.--Commercial marriages.--Marriage as it should be.--The husband's danger from "aggressiveness."--The wife should not provoke the wrongs she suffers.--Marital modesty.--Parenthood the justification of the marital act.--Reproduction the primal purpose.--Harmony of purpose and life.--Love's highest plane.--The value of continence.--The right and wrong of marriage.--The relation during gestation.--Effects of relation during gestation illustrated.--The wrong-doings of good men.--The fruits of ignorance.--The better day coming, 79-96

PREPARATION FOR MOTHERHOOD.

Motherhood the glory of womanhood.--Maternity natural and productive of health.--Prevalence of knowledge of methods used to prevent conception.--Mothers should prepare their daughters for maternity.--Motherhood the sanction for wifehood.--Effect of fixed habits of mother upon offspring.--Adjustment of clothing to expectant motherhood.--Importance of proper exercise.--The sitz bath.--Effects of environment upon the unborn.--Why Italian children resemble the madonnas.--The child the expression of the mother's thoughts.--The five stages of prenatal culture stated and illustrated.--The mother of the Wesleys.--The child the heir and expression of the mother's thought and life, 97-112

PREPARATION FOR FATHERHOOD.

The command to "replenish the earth."--Preparation for motherhood more written about than preparation for fatherhood.--Questions which would test the fitness of young men for marriage.--Parents should know the character of young men who desire their daughters in marriage.--Many young men of startling worth.--The improving of a good heritage.--Effects of bad morals and wayward habits.--Effects of tobacco and alcoholics.--How young women help to contribute bad habits in young men.--The years of rooting and weeding necessary.--Attaining the best.--The father reproduced in his children, 113-121

ANTENATAL INFANTICIDE.

The alarming prevalence of this hideous sin.--How daughters are initiated.--How expectant mothers appeal to reputable physicians.--Young women should be taught to associate the idea of marriage with motherhood.--Destruction of own health and life go hand in hand with prenatal murder.--Effect of such attempts upon the physical life and character.--Life from the moment of conception.--The injustice and cruel wrongs inflicted upon wives by uncontrolled passions of husbands.--Obligation of motherhood should be recognized.--Its blessings.--The duty of the physician as educator of public sentiment, 123-134

THE MORAL RESPONSIBILITY OF PARENTS IN HEREDITY.

The duty of the present to future generations.--Darwin on heredity.--Nature inexorable.--The mother's investment of moulding power.--The father's important part in the transmission of heredity.--The parents workers together with God.--Parents must reap what they sow.--The law and the gospel of heredity contrasted.--The children of inebriates and others.--Lessons from reformatory institutions.--The outcast Margaret.--The mother of Samson.--How a child became an embodiment of "The Lady of the Lake."--The woman who desired to be the mother of governors.--Importance of this study, 135-145

AILMENTS OF PREGNANCY.

Pregnancy not an unnatural but a normal state.--Tendency to neglect hygienic rules.--Morning sickness.--How to correct it.--Important questions of diet.--Displaced uterus as cause of nausea.--Mental states.--Companionship.--Various gastric troubles.--Insomnia.--Hysteria.--Constipation and how to correct it.--Longings.--Self-control.--With proper care, as a rule all goes well, 147-154

DEVELOPMENT OF THE FOETUS.

Minuteness of the germ of human life.--The embryo cell and its store of food.--Its journey to the uterus.--Meeting the spermatozo?n, conception occurs.--The changes which take place in the uterus.--Life is present the moment conception takes place.--The mysterious development of the embryo.--The sin of tampering with the work of the infinite.--The various changes in the development of the embryo and foetus set forth.--The changes that occur each month.--Parenthood the benediction of husband and wife, 155-162

BABY'S WARDROBE.

The question that comes with fluttering signs of life.--Importance of wise choice of material and style of dress.--The blessedness of mother's joy in preparing baby's clothing.--The questions of dress important.--Formerly seemingly planned for discomfort.--The "binder" an instrument of torture.--Better methods now prevail.--The napkin.--How to establish regular habits for baby.--The pinning blanket.--The little shirt.--Baby's earliest and best dress described.--The complete wardrobe described.--The furnishings of the basket.--Things which are not to baby's taste or comfort.--The later wardrobe, 163-171

THE CHOICE OF PHYSICIAN AND NURSE.

Choice of physician and nurse of real consequence.--Choose a physician whom you can trust implicitly.--A cleanly man.--The wife should make the selection.--A Christian physician.--Choice of nurse.--Wife most capable of making choice.--Advice of the physician desirable.--She should be pleasing to the wife.--Cleanliness.--Gentleness.--A person of individuality.--Neatness in manner and clothing.--Should be intelligent.--Physician and nurse should work in sympathy.--A good cook.--Able to converse, but not a gossip.--Many such physicians and nurses, 173-177

THE BIRTH CHAMBER.

SURROUNDINGS AND AFTER-CARE OF THE MOTHER.

Maternity should have the largest and brightest room in the house.--It is her coronation room.--Simplicity of labor with healthy women.--Science has reduced risk to the minimum.--The exaltation of motherhood.--The rest after labor.--How to prepare a bed for the parturient.--Deliverance of mother from friends and visitors.--Sanitary pads.--Regular nursing.--Undisturbed sleep.--No binder necessary for mother.--The care of the breasts.--Diet.--Sitting up.--Six or eight weeks needed to regain normal condition.--The use of the douche.--Sore nipples.--The bearing of children not to be dreaded.--The joy of motherhood, 189-200

CARE OF THE BABY.

The more thoughtful treatment of babies than formerly.--The first attention that baby needs.--Its oil bath.--The care of the eyes.--The care of the placentic cord.--Baby's first bath.--Its covering after the bath.--The basket.--Regularity in nursing.--Waking at night.--Rocking to sleep.--Quantity of food.--The appointments of the nursery.--The mother and the care of her own children.--To her children the mother should be the dearest creature in the world.--The babies born of love.--The babies born in bitterness.--The responsibilities and joys of motherhood, 201-212

THE MOTHER THE TEACHER.

Food, clothing and restraint not the mother's full duty to her children.--Teach them self-knowledge.--Mother should give honest answers to honest inquiries.--Ignorance leads to vice, and vice to ruin.--When shall children be taught physical truths.--How to teach little children physical truth.--Questions of sex should be the most sacred things of their knowledge.--How to teach the children in this sacred way.--Mothers should teach their boys as well as the girls.--How boys grow away from their mothers.--How mothers may win and hold their boys.--An honest mother's reward, 213-228

COMMON AILMENTS OF CHILDREN.

GUARDING AGAINST SECRET VICE.

The mother's preparation as guide and protector of her children.--Safeguards for tiny babyhood.--Cleanliness, regularity, chafing, pin worms, servants, nurse girls, etc., etc.--How to teach and guard them during childhood.--Safeguarding the children with knowledge.--Inborn curiosity concerning physical mysteries.--How to meet these questions.--Sleeping alone.--How to correct vice where it exists. The duty of physicians to the public.--Symptoms which call for parental watchfulness.--Results of secret vice.--Rewards of parental vigilance, 237-244

THE TRAINING OF CHILDREN.

The training which develops talents.--When child-training should begin.--The training of her children the mother's all-important calling.--The influence of the mother's own character and life.--The children imitators of their parents.--Importance of earliest training.--Spoiled children.--Children's rights.--The proper correction of children.--Broken promises and parental falsehoods.--Value of tact in parental discipline.--Value of parental sympathy.--The mother, herself, the best gift to her children.--The choice of books and stories.--The choice of companions for the children.--Toys, sports and amusements.--An appeal to mothers, 245-262

BODY-BUILDING.

Our duty to nourish, strengthen and build up strong bodies.--Eradicating inherited infirmities.--Children inherit the permanent states of their parents.--The parents' duty to those who are not well born.--What has been accomplished along these lines.--The relation of babies' clothing and food to physical growth.--Unwise feeding.--The laws of nutrition.--The relation of food to national greatness.--A list of good foods.--The relation of exercise to appetite.--Comparative value of meat and vegetables.--Importance of rest and sleep.--Regular sleeping hours.--Schools and nervousness in children.--Many children are not properly nourished.--Food poorly prepared and poorly served.--The importance of hygienic cooking.--The cause of weak eyes in children.--Children and bare feet.--The dosing of children with nostrums.--The use of brandy and wine in cooking, 263-285

MOTHERS' MEETINGS, STUDY CLUBS AND BOOKS.

The awakening along new lines.--A better brand of mothers.--Books that will help along this line.--Mothers' clubs as factors.--Their need in cities, villages, and rural communities.--A rich mine, 287-292

INTELLIGENCE OF THE YOUNG WIFE.

Out of Girlhood into Wifehood.--The Setting up of a New Home.--Woman's Exalted Place.--Earlier Influences.--Importance of Intelligence.--Woman Fitted by Creator for Wifehood and Motherhood.--The Position of Reproductive Organs in the Body.--Dangers of Crowding Contents of Abdomen.--What all Young Wives Need to Know.--Premium Previously set upon Ignorance.--Heredity.--Failures and Successes of our Ancestors.--Faults and Virtues Transmitted through Heredity.

What a young wife ought to know is a large question, and one which we neither hope nor expect to answer fully in this little book, but if what we shall say shall set our girls to thinking a little more seriously and more exaltedly, of the great possibilities which await them: if it shall prepare them to enter the sacred realm of marriage with holier thoughts of the high duties they are assuming, we shall be content, feeling we have accomplished our purpose.

Out of girlhood into wifehood, seems a short step, but it is one fraught with grave responsibilities. If all along your girlhood way, your aspirations have been high, and you have been living for the best, you are prepared for the new life and its duties; if, on the other hand, you have been drifting thoughtlessly, as so many girls are allowed to do, you will have little conception of what the future holds for you.

A new home at your touch is to be called into being; a new altar reared, upon which the sacrificial offerings shall be those of love, and confidence, and life, and mutual endeavor, and work, not for self, but for that other self whom you have chosen out of all the world to be the sharer of everything that life means and that you hold dear.

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